Every child learns to use the washroom independently sooner or later and yours will too. The key in helping them is – patience, the use of encouraging words and constant positive thoughts.

When is the ideal time to start toilet training?

A question often asked. Well, there is no perfect age. You can start working towards training anytime, but 18 months to 3 years is normally considered as an ideal timeframe. You will know when your child is ready for toilet training , when you almost get clean or dry diapers (They are controlling their bowel and bladder, which means they are physically ready) or when they are able to indicate verbally or non-verbally (patting or touching their nappy).

As parents, this can be a time that generates mixed feelings. Here are a few points to ponder.

1. Keep your child’s schedule in mind when starting toilet training.
2. Build the excitement and make them a part of it right from the very beginning.
3. Find out what excites your child.
4. Shop together: Get your house ready, buy an animated potty and underwear to make the whole process thrilling.
5. Ensure that every successful attempt is duly praised.
6. Regularity is the key (try to keep it to the same time) Have a chat with your child’s class teacher, if they are at Nursery, or with other caregivers so that there is consistency in the approach. Share important information like taking them to the toilet every 25 minutes or after meals.
7. Potty Talk: It is imperative to have a dialogue just like grown-ups. Speak to them about the need to go to the toilet independently. Transfer the responsibility. A gentle reminder every now and then about washing hands can sometimes be motivating enough to use the toilet.
8. Maintain a chart (you can use stickers or smilies for every successful attempt).
9. Remember setbacks are predictable (don’t be disheartened). The child may forget to go to the toilet. Acknowledge it and move on. This way your child will not get discouraged.
10. Have a friend come over who is potty trained. There’s nothing like peer encouragement!.
11. Choose a favourite toy, storybook or song when sitting on the potty.
12. Realistic goals: Don’t abandon the ship too soon (keep going one step at a time).
13. Be flexible with nap timings if needed.
14. Give lots and lots of positive reinforcement. It always acts as a propeller. 😊

Self-mastery is every child’s goal. By learning to control the basic bodily functions he or she is galloping towards that end goal. Let the apple of your eye lead the way.

Happy Training!!

Nami Nayar
Head of Early Years
JINS Downtown